I have noticed a trend of “busyness” over the last few years and whilst being busy is a success measure for many, I wonder who is stopping to check if it’s also a detriment?
By that I mean, is it possible that we so busy that we are neglecting what’s right in front of us and in particular the opportunity to nurture and deepen relationships?
I see this all the time, but one incident that really stuck was a few months ago when my daughter and I were waiting for my husband in the lobby of a Hawaiian Resort. As she played, I observed an interaction between a man and his (much older than mine) daughter on the lounge across from us.
Picture a stunning 28-degree day and a lobby that overlooks a big pool surrounded by trees and behind that is the ocean – it was magical! Yet, here is a man with a laptop, iPad and phone getting cross with his daughter and telling her to come back in half an hour as he is working. It seemed they too were on a family holiday though he was too busy to notice (and she had such a sad face as she walked away)!
The same thing happens when I get into lifts in the city, I over hear the “how are you…busy” with the standard reply of “yeah, busy and you?”. I walk away wondering what each learned about each other in that conversation as it lacked and information to say the least!
If time is the one thing we can’t get more of, I wonder how you are using your time and furthermore, if you are ensuring your focus is on relationships? The old adage, ‘It’s too late to build a relationship when you need it most' couldn’t be more true, yet I still get clients telling me that they are too busy for certain relationship building activities. Networking is one of these, though as I always say, every interaction is a chance to network; be it at the shared kitchen, the café down stairs, the lift or a plane… so please open your eyes and ears and maximise each moment.
I hope this helps you think differently about being busy as it may not be such a good thing after all…
As always get in touch, if I can help you further.